Use EFT to OVERCOME the Frustration of Family Not Helping With Chores
The thought of doing tasks and chores around the house may not be exciting or motivating for you.
It may be even less motivating if you are feeling drained or overwhelmed if your family isn’t helping with chores.
There are a number of easy ways to motivate your family to help you. Addressing the frustration you may have around the lack of help around the home is important too!
If you need a refresher on how to do EFT or what EFT, the Emotional Freedom Technique is, also known as “tapping”, you can look over the basics.
Here is a simplified script from the video above if you would like to try on your own.
Visualize yourself in a situation of feeling frustrated because you are overwhelmed with the housework and desire the help.
As you tap, the script will go from the negative feelings, acknowledging them, then taking it into positive thoughts, including solutions.
Tapping for “Frustration of Not Getting Help Around the House”
Karate Chop: (Set-up Statement)
- Even though I am frustrated because I feel I’m the only one doing housework, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
- Even though I get annoyed with myself because I get frustrated, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
- Even though I am not really good about expressing what I need, I thought I was, but maybe I’m not, I still deeply and completely love and accept who I am right now.
Eyebrow: I am frustrated it’s difficult to get help with the housework
Side of Eye: I understand that they are not any more excited about doing chores as I am
Under Eye: I ask for help, and I think I’m really clear about asking for help
Under Nose: But even though I think I’m clear asking for help, maybe I’m not
Chin: Maybe I haven’t been consistent in the past about asking for help, or I don’t follow through, or they think I’ll just end up doing the chores on my own anyways
Collar Bone: Maybe I can be better about expressing myself to my family
Under arm: My family has got use to me doing it all and just expect me to do all the housework
Top of Head: Maybe part of me feels guilty because I think I should be doing it all too
Eye brow: I want to be better about expressing myself to my family
Side of Eye: I don’t need to be rude about it, or be angry about it
Under Eye: It’s good to ask for help, it’s good that the kids and husband help
Under nose: I am teaching them to be a helpful adult, and being able to live on their own someday
Chin: If they don’t help around the house, they won’t know how to care for themselves as adults, or be a good spouse, or a good roommate
Collar Bone: Instead of me getting frustrated or angry because I’m feeling all alone with these chores
Under Arm: I’m teaching my family and my kids good habits by helping me
Top of head: I need to think of this in a positive way, I’m not putting them out, everybody is benefiting from helping
Eye brow: I don’t want to feel guilty about asking for help
Side of Eye: I’m the one putting that guilt on myself, no one else
Under Eye: When they help me and the chore isn’t completed well, then I can choose to cheerfully finish it, these new habits can take time
Under nose: I’m not gonna nag them give, them a hard time, criticize them, because that’s just going to deflate them, then they really won’t want to help
Chin: I’m going try to be super encouraging, loving, and appreciative
Collar Bone: When they hear my gratitude and kindness, and see me helping them, they may offer to help on their own someday
Under Arm: I’m so glad that I’m teaching my kids to be responsible young adults and someday an awesome spouse, parent and employee
Top of head: There’s no guilt in that, so I’m just going let the guilt go, I’m going let the frustration go, I’m going let the anger go, because taking care of a home is a family project.
Take a deep breath.
EFT is a wonderful tool that can help with many issues, both emotional and physical.
This may be the last tool you would consider to help with your frustration around lack of help with chores from the family, but it is effective!
When you tap consistently, you will see results with your thoughts. They may be gradual, or sometimes they can change in an instant. Everyone is different!
You are doing the right thing, encouraging your family to help you around the house. Teamwork makes the dream work!
Cheering you onto a more simple life!